Great breakdowns and you wrote it really clearly and gave proper subheadings to simplify it for your readers.

The set of “Questions you should ask yourself about your level of maturity” were great, LOL at the Umbilical cord transfer! They posed as serious questions one must ask themselves if they are serious about starting a life with a partner.

Furthermore, you made a very wise statement, that the worst case scenario is not getting rejected. People naturally have an orientation to a state of equilibrium, and something like being told no, meets the level of humility, which pushes you off the cliff of chillness into the ocean of …osteoporosis? You get what I mean, people are just so afraid of no’s that they miss out on actual progress in life.

PS I’m totally going to try that rock in a paper thing, not for marriage proposals, but as a substitute for any forms of communication, that includes subbing emails, phone calls, the works, muahaha.

PS you should add to the list that if you still play with dinosaur action figures while making roaring sounds for hem you’re probably not mature enough for marriage… not that I play with dinosaur action figures. Although, if I had some, I totally would.

Ameen!

And your advice does seem quite plausible! I shall take heed!!!

The short answer is any guy who gets creeped out is probably not worth marrying anyway, so don’t worry about it.

Actually, the brother whose article I referred to in the “looking” section is happily married, has several kids, and his wife was the one who proposed to him.

A lot of times people are interested, but because of nervousness and fear of rejection they may never go for a good opportunity. At the end of the day we all need to be mature and very comfortable receiving and giving rejection (which is why it’s important to not get attached even during the meeting phases), because the worse thing in the world is not getting rejected, it’s the wrong two people getting married.

It’s a lot easier said then done I know, a lot of these are very strong emotions we’re dealing with – but life is even harder when we let them overcomplicate simple things.

They have the most experience with common issues, and there are a ton of articles/lectures/events floating around where one can pick up this knowledge.

I was just thinking though, what if you are a sister, looking, and have a brother in mind whom you’d like to know better for the purposes of marriage and there is no way that the proposal can come from his side, should you do the waiting game or should you send the proposal yourself to the brother (of course through a third party)?!!! I know, Islamically it is allowed but I don’t know how a guy would perceive that!

I just want to know from a guy’s perspective, if you’d be creeped out if a girl proposes to you?!!! BE HONEST!!!!

Any advice would be appreciated!!! :P

I didn’t think people still read this, it’s encouraging to see you enjoyed and benefited!

Secondly, it is extremely important that those lookin get married learn the fiqh of marriage before they begin, I can not stress this enough because you will save yourself from a lot of headaches in the future. I recommend listening to “The Fiqh of Marriage” by Yasir Berjas, I found it to be very comprehensive, amusing and beneficial.

Lastly, If you’re seriously looking to get married and you’re having trouble finding someone then there’s one simple thing you can do; go to the imam of your resident masjid. The imams are often well connected and if you’re looking for a practicing spouse then why not ask the imam for assistance. I’m not saying that other avenues are not beneficial but many people often neglect this one. A friend of mine spoke to the imam at one of my resident masjids and the imam found 2 suitable sisters for him, 2!

May Allah make us among those who fear him and act upon the beneficial advice we give to others, Ameen

ps. jazukuallah khair bro subour, I found your note light hearted, and at times funny, but also filled with good sincere advice,mashallah